These are links to help people with disabilities cut down on the emotional labour of self advocacy. This page can help you understand what imposing accessible boundaries looks like and how to be an ally to the neurodivergent community.
The more we understand the easier it is to be authentically supportive. The more authentic our actions are, the less energy we expend on emotional labour to accomplish the same task.

References
Strassmann-Peña, Sophie. 2023. The Unofficial Guide to Ability and Neurodiversity. Open Science Framework. https://osf.io/t4e37/?view_only=8ec33d554c2f4d79a109b62cd7cee058.
